A few years ago I decided that I was going to stop doing anything I didn't want to do....I'm sure I've blogged about it before. It's been quite the interesting and I must say successful experiment. 

However, one surprising aspect of this decision was not only how hard it was to say no to the things that drained me - but how scary it was to say yes to the things that I wanted to do. 

It seems to strike a chord because no matter where you work or live or play — it’s impossible to avoid jerks and assholes.

We try all kinds of strategies for dealing with them too. We shout back. We bend over backwards trying to make them happy. We avoid them whenever possible and sometimes we leave them behind forever.

Many people wonder if I'm pro or anti-medication given that I'm a psychologist and can't prescribe medications. The answer is... it depends. Well, I guess that I'm not really against them given that I work quite closely with a great group of psychiatrists and I send many of my patients to them for help when they need medication.

I have a little secret to tell....I haven’t been practicing what I preach! I talk about balance and being kind to yourself and not biting off more than you can chew - but this month I overdid it.

If you are a worrier, chances are someone has said to you, “Why don’t you just let it go and live in the present moment.”

Ha. It’s so much easier said than done.

You don’t wake up one morning and decide to live in the present moment.  We don’t just stop worrying and we can’t just let things go. That’s not how we’re built.

I thought I would share with you this commencement speech delivered by Steve Jobs to graduates at Stanford University. I love it because he addresses one of the primary reasons that people are unhappy - we live our lives for other people.

I often joke with people that I'm unemployable. Whenever I've worked for someone else, my biggest frustration has always been knowing what's possible and having to ask permission to get it done.